The first person here, I could see washing hands over. Seems like a bit of a pattern, the behavior itself is overweening, and if she's initiating with such relative ease, it seems simpler to just be done with it. And it does seem like she's initiating, with a pattern of subtweeting friends for at worst minor social faux pas.
The first person here, I could see washing hands over. Seems like a bit of a pattern, the behavior itself is overweening, and if she's initiating with such relative ease, it seems simpler to just be done with it. And it does seem like she's initiating, with a pattern of subtweeting friends for at worst minor social faux pas.
The second, if it were me, I think I would have tried to push to resolve quicker. The incident sounds one-time, and the stresses in the situation aren't clear. Perhaps she just was having a bad day for no reason you ought have known. And from her perspective looking at interactions, *if* she was unaware how she came off, your cutting things off would be seen as the initial aggression. If too much time has passed, maybe that changes it. But I think if I were seeing and interacting with her with some regularity (as I was, in the incident I vaguely describe in the other comment), I'd give a go at trying to resolve it still.
But then, I don't necessarily see being yelled at once as necessarily momentous, and my inclination is to be more forgiving of any one bad incident, as a general rule. And I don't think that's some ironclad requirement of interactions, even if it happens to be how I (at least try to) roll.
The first person here, I could see washing hands over. Seems like a bit of a pattern, the behavior itself is overweening, and if she's initiating with such relative ease, it seems simpler to just be done with it. And it does seem like she's initiating, with a pattern of subtweeting friends for at worst minor social faux pas.
The second, if it were me, I think I would have tried to push to resolve quicker. The incident sounds one-time, and the stresses in the situation aren't clear. Perhaps she just was having a bad day for no reason you ought have known. And from her perspective looking at interactions, *if* she was unaware how she came off, your cutting things off would be seen as the initial aggression. If too much time has passed, maybe that changes it. But I think if I were seeing and interacting with her with some regularity (as I was, in the incident I vaguely describe in the other comment), I'd give a go at trying to resolve it still.
But then, I don't necessarily see being yelled at once as necessarily momentous, and my inclination is to be more forgiving of any one bad incident, as a general rule. And I don't think that's some ironclad requirement of interactions, even if it happens to be how I (at least try to) roll.