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Tristan's avatar

I was mostly with you till the last sentence. Immediate grounds for firing? No harassment involved. No bullying, no direct incompetence. Just mentioning the details of transition?

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Theodric's avatar

Discussing the mechanics of how you obtain sexual pleasure does not become “safe for work” just because it’s related to gender transition. Same goes for the details of your anal grooming routine.

Is it always grounds for immediate firing? No, but I feel like it’s one of those things that if you do get fired for, you pretty much have to say, “well that’s a fair cop”.

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Tristan's avatar

I agreed with Katie’s analysis that the “euphoria” comment about peeing referred to the opposite of dysphoria, i.e., feeling comfortable in one’s skin. Did they say something else wrt sexual pleasure?

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Theodric's avatar

The first pull quote was literally about how they now found being penetrated sexually pleasurable.

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Tristan's avatar

My mistake then.

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Promachos's avatar

I have never worked in a place where anyone was discussing the details of medical procedures. Ever.

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jojoZ's avatar

That’s weird, I definitely have had colleagues share medical information with me. No one’s having vaginoplasties though.

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Promachos's avatar

On a group chat that the whole org can pop into and see? Never. A quiet exchange 121 over a cup of tea with someone I’m quite friendly with has happened, but even that’s been quite seldom and on a NTK basis.

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J.C. Ermine's avatar

Yes, I've quietly shared personal information with long-term co-workers I deeply trusted, but I can't imagine putting it in a group chat.

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jojoZ's avatar

I agree, I wouldn’t do it! But a lot of people treat slack like a water cooler, so I hear.

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Promachos's avatar

I’ve heard similar, but NOT in the gov spaces I’ve been in because everything is FOI-able. Not only was it emblazoned at the top of Slack channels, people reminded each other about it in DMs. To go back to the original story, it’s mind boggling that any gov staff felt so relaxed about posting that kind of information in the middle of a culture war. The places I’ve been in got about as political as inviting people to community gardening projects via Slack.

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